A Blessing in Disguise

9 Nov

Through my battle with HA, I have met several wonderful women struggling and having the same issues as I do. These friendships have been made because we are all going through one of the harder things a woman should ever have to endure on her own. The bonds we have made have been life changing and the support we can offer one another is irreplaceable.

When I found the support board back in April, I immediately felt a connection with these women. They were saying the same things that I was thinking and it was like I found a group of people who are the way I am and think the way I do and do the things I do – which in turn has gotten us to where we are now. Those bonds have also gotten me to where I am today in my recovery, and I am forever thankful for each and every one of them!

There are women in the group trying to beat HA by gaining weight, medicine, acupuncture, herbs, faith, and positivity. Because at this point in my recovery I am trying to get pregnant naturally, I reached out to another girl on the board who was doing the same. We had found the board around the same time and gained our cycles back around the same time. Her name is Priscilla, and she is one of the most positive, inspirational, and caring people I have ever met – and she was that way to a complete stranger miles and miles away.

Priscilla and I clicked right away and began messaging daily, then texting, and Skyping. She was like my own personal Dr. Google and Chicken Soup for the Soul all wrapped up into one! After months of talking about all things baby, life, seeing a different perspective, and a virtual shoulder to cry on, Priscilla and her mom decided to come meet and visit me in Iowa!

I was so nervous when I was driving to the airport, but as soon as we gave each other a big hug, all of the nerves were gone. It was like catching up with an old friend that I’ve known for years!

I’ve never been able to talk to someone DAILY (multiple times a day in fact), spend 4 days with them,Β and still not run out of things to talk about!!

We started the weekend off with making our own homemade calzones and pumpkin chocolate chip cookies.

We drank some wine and laughed a lot while trying to mimic Pinterest’s version of the calzones.

Saturday we went to a town called Galena, IL. It has lots of cute little shops on their Main Street. We did some shopping and ate lunch there and headed back to town to visit the River Walk and take some pictures.

Later we joined up with some of our friends and had dinner, drank some wine, and went to a friends’ house to hang out.

Sunday, Linda and Priscilla got to meet my nephews and my sister. We ate lunch at my sister’s house and then just hung around until David played hockey later that night.

Monday came too fast as always and it was time for me to take them back to the airport. We had such a great time with so many good memories and laughs that it was really sad to take them back so soon but I am so thankful that they were even able to come visit me and I can’t wait until I get to visit them some day!

This past year I have learned a lot about people. There are such good, genuine people out there. We see on the news about all of the crazies and bad things that happen, but why don’t we document the goodness in people. The people who mail you something from far away who don’t even know you just to brighten your day. The people who will fly miles and miles to spend a weekend with you because your friendship is that important to them. Or even the people who lend you their mittens, scarf, and Carhartt overalls because you are standing outside in the Iowa November weather for hours and hours conducting exit poll surveys (yep, that’s me!).

Maybe someday we can turn on the news and hear about all of the good things that are happening in this world and all of the good people that are in it.

My battle with HA has been super hard but it is definitely a blessing in disguise. I have met some of the most wonderful women that exist and I have built friendships with each and every one. The road hasn’t been easy but today I am thankful for those friendships like the one I have with Priscilla that I have some extra positivity in my life for the times that are hard and I wish that everyone would have a special friend or a strong support system of family and friends around them like I do because we aren’t alone in this world.

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10 Responses to “A Blessing in Disguise”

  1. Priscilla November 9, 2012 at 1:30 pm #

    Mal, thank you so much for sharing our visit. You brought tears to my eyes and I don’t think I’ll ever be able to express just how special you are to me. I hope you know that you’ve helped me just as much and I will be forever grateful for that, I’ve never experienced a friendship like ours and I’m so excited to see what our lives have in store for us!! Now that we have this bond, it’ll make each milestone in our lives that much sweeter because we will have each other to share them with. I’m looking forward to the day you come to visit so that I can repay the hospitality and kindness that you showed me and my mom. You’re one of a kind Mal!! ~Miss you lots, P

    • Mallory November 9, 2012 at 4:36 pm #

      Aww that brought tears to my eyes! hahaha we are going to be an emotional disaster once we have crazy hormones someday! πŸ˜‰ We will be crying to each other back and forth (all from happiness of course though!). Our friendship is truly one i will cherish forever! ❀ xoxo

  2. Linda Vasquez November 9, 2012 at 2:03 pm #

    Hey Mal, I just want you to know how heart-warming it is for me to know that you and Priscilla have become such great friends. No one should go through these struggles alone! We’re here for you always! Thanks again for everything, we had a great time!!
    Until next time, Linda

    • Mallory November 9, 2012 at 4:37 pm #

      Hi Linda!!! Thank you for your sweet comment!!! It was so nice meeting you and you and George have raised an amazing woman! πŸ™‚ Thank YOU for everything!!!! See you in Arizona, or California, when it’s warm unlike Iowa πŸ˜‰ hehe ❀

  3. Lindsey November 9, 2012 at 3:08 pm #

    This is SO cute! I love show close you two have become even living so far away. Even though I have only recently just “met” you both I feel like there is so much support for me. And I have to thank you two for this. And the fact that no matter how TMI it is you are always willing to answer my questions. You are both two of the most genuine people I have ever met!

    • Mallory November 9, 2012 at 4:39 pm #

      Thanks Lindsey!!!! I am so glad to have ‘met’ you as well!!! We will all get through this together, arm in arm, 2 is better than 1 and 3 is even better!!! I am here for you through it all and nothing is ever too TMI for us girls! πŸ˜‰ Someday we will be onto the next milestone as P said! ❀ ya girl!

  4. healthyhappyalways November 11, 2012 at 7:40 am #

    Ladies, I have read up on Hypothalamic Amenorrhea and I think I have the same thing. I have recently upped my calories to help me gain about 14 lbs to get to a BMI of 21. Y’all are such a great support group! Thanks for helping others through your struggle. I need all the help I can get!

    • Mallory November 11, 2012 at 4:23 pm #

      I’m so glad that you found my blog! Great job on the weight gain!!! If you need someone to talk to or a link to the forum with a bunch of girls dealing with the same thing, please feel free to email me @ ifgravityhappens@gmail.com.

  5. Jcee November 12, 2012 at 4:18 am #

    Mal, thanks for sharing this beautiful story – I didn’t realise your whole story with Pris, and it was so lovely to hear the recap. Loved the gorgeous pics too!
    I just love that you can see the silver lining to this cruel illness, and that you could draw attention to this!!

    • Mallory November 12, 2012 at 8:33 pm #

      Thanks for reading (and commenting!) on my blog!!! πŸ™‚ Positive women like yourself have led me to be able to see that silver lining! πŸ™‚ xoxo

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